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Stressed Out and No Place to Go?
If you are a law enforcement officer or the spouse of one, then you know how stress can play a major factor on the home front, especially
over the holidays. With swing shifts and missed family gatherings, to in-laws with their idiosyncrasies, overly stretched budgets, and crime that does not take a break, these December days can mount up and overwhelm. Tempers flair, needs go unmet, and words wound. So how do we cope with the craziness of the holidays? Here’s a simple list of five ways to lessen the stress:
- Make time for God. For some, this may be the first time you’ve really ever thought of it. For others, perhaps it has been awhile. Regardless, God wants a relationship with you! Spend some time seeking Him. His word promises that if we seek Him, He will be found. Take it from a former runner (running aw
ay from God)…He is worth the pursuit!
- Make time for yourself. To some this may seem selfish, but it is a proven fact that if you don’t take care of yourself, then you won’t be any good to anyone else. Take an hour, a day or an evening to do something you love to do. Catch up on that television series, read that book you started but couldn’t finish, take a walk, etc. Believe me, you’re family will thank you.
- Make time for your spouse. Treat him or her to dinner. Invite them out for an evening of fun. Remember, your relationship with your spouse should involve a lifelong love commitment. Often, the stress we are feeling towards him or her stems from a lack of reconnection. Relationships will not survive if we never feed them with time, love and care. So what are you waiting for? Get out there and have some fun together! You won’t regret it.
- Step back and breathe. Sometimes the stresses can overwhelm us causing our blood pressure to rise to the boiling point. When you feel stress creeping up, step back and take deep breaths before you speak. If necessary, remove yourself from the situation for five minutes or until you can get a handle on your emotions. When you can control your words and actions instead of them controlling you, your true inner strength shines.
- Seek outside help. Somehow we get this crazy notion that seeking help for our stress is a sign of weakness.
That is the farthest thing from the truth! Realizing and admitting you’re having difficulties is a HUGE sign of strength. If there comes a point when you just can’t manage on your own any longer, then seek professional help. There are many organizations for law enforcement which help with this sort of thing confidentially. One I like to recommend is www.safecallnow.org. Please…don’t wait until it’s too late. Seek help now. We want you around and so does your family!
Faith Based Books
- Lives Behind the Badge – Kristi Neace
- Standing Courageous – Kristi Neace
- Survival Guide for Police Wives – Kristi Neace
- Because I’m Suitable – Chaplain Allison R. Uribe
- A CHiP On My Shoulder – Victoria M. Newman
- Life Behind His Shield – Meghan Alanis
- Stories of Faith and Courage from Cops on the Street – Grant Wolf
- The PeaceKeepers: A Bible Study for Law Enforcement Officers – Michael Dye
- Layers: Living a Life Unhindered – Kristi Neace (Bible study for Women)
- I Love A Cop: What Police Families Need To Know (Revised Edition). Ellen Kirschman, Guilford Press, 2006. Find this book on Amazon.com.
- In Harm’s Way: Help for the Wives of Military Men, Police, EMTs, & Firefighters. Aphrodite Matsakis, PhD., New Harbinger Publications, 2005. Find this book on Amazon.com.
- Cops Don’t Cry: A Book of Help and Hope for Police Families. Vali Stone, Creative Bound, 2007. Find this book on Amazon.com.
- Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement: A Guide for Officers and Their Families. Kevin Gilmartin, PhD., E-S Press, 2002. Find this book on Amazon.com.
- Courage After Fire. Keith Armstrong, L.C.S.W., Suzanne Best, Ph.D., & Paula Domenici, Ph.D., Ulysses Press, 2006. Find this book on Amazon.com.
Responder Life Ministries: www.responderlife.org – Support for both First Responders and their spouses and families: Police, Fire, Paramedics, EMTS
Badgeofhopeministries.com : Faith Based Ministry for Spousal Support, as well as Spiritual Support for the Officer and his family: Kristi Neace (http://www.kristineace.com) and her husband Cpl. Rick Neace (Union CIty Police Mo.), Kristi is both a speaker and author.
http://www.shieldedhearts.org/- Spousal Support for Law Enforcement Officers Spouses
www.How2LoveYourCop.com: Victoria Newman:As a wife of 25 years to an Assistant Chief with the California Highway Patrol, firstname.lastname@example.org
Sign up for Victoria’s Blog
Facebook – A CHiP on My Shoulder Fan Page
Twitter – How2loveyourcop
Policestressunit.org/spouse.htm – Central Florida Police Stress Unit
The Central Florida Police Stress Unit, INc.
The PSU Training Institute
Office Phone: (407) 428-1800
Fax Number: (407) 282-2891 e-mail: email@example.com
Badge of Life: Police Suicide Prevention : www.badgeoflife.com - https:/www.facebook.com/pages/Badge-of-Life
www.wivesbehindthebadge.org – Perhaps the largest organization for wives, providing resources, emotional support and networking
Online organization for wives, blog. Http://www.Facebook.com/thepolicewifelife
www.policewives.org – Offers support forums and charitable efforts for families of law enforcement officers.
www.wivesonduty.com – Faith-based encouragement for cop wives, Modesto, CA and San Antonio,TX
www.copswives.com – Offers support and encouragement for wives of police officers
National Police Wives Association: http://nationalpolicewivesassociation.org/
Pasco Sheriff ’s Office Chaplains
Trinity Life Counseling -www.trinitylifecounseling.com
Fred Fellicano, LMHC, P.A.
“Helping those caught in Life’s Difficulties to grow and move again.”
4907 Vandyke rd, ste.11, Lutz, Florida 33558
Phone: 813.960.4181 • 727.848.0013 • fax: 813.364.1777
New Life Wellness Center at Calvary Chapel Worship Center
Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday 9:00 AM – 7:00 PM
Thursday 9:00-5:00PM (After hours appointments are available)
The New Life Wellness Center is about:
-Providing tools of self-management
-Promoting a multi-disciplinary approach of caring for the physical, emotional, and
Spiritual needs of our clients.
Pastor Andrea – Andrea@ccwc.org or 727-859-7411- Pasco Sheriff Chaplain
Pastor Johannes – firstname.lastname@example.org or 727-495-6370- Former Military and Police Officer from South Africa
Melissa Dawn Richards: Child and adolescent, Family, PTSD Counseling
Restoration Counseling Center
17886 N US Highway 41
Lutz, Florida 33549
Dr. Dennis Cox
Trinity Counseling Service
9020 Rancho Del Rio Dr
New Port Richey, Florida 34655
Tampa Bay Christian Counseling Services: Family and Individual Counseling
3036 W. Bearss Ave. Tampa, Fl. 33618
Christopher Cambas, Michelle Childs, Natalie West Southward